I don’t want to presume that ever writing parent is going through the same problems I am, but we all have the balancing act. Fortunately for me, my husband and I have been able to make do with his income our entire marriage. I get to write write without pressure to make large amounts of money. It doesn’t pay now but will in the long run, and that works out okay for us. Some writing mothers and fathers have to balance family, work, and writing. Some may even have more on their plates than that.
No matter what your circumstances are, there will always be time to write. It’s important to have a writing schedule for yourself, however, writing moms and dads have to be flexible. Unless you can afford a nanny, cook, and/or maid, you can’t ignore the things that come up. Kids will still need to go to the doctor and the dentist, you still need to buy groceries, and all the other boring errands that plague us. Life will not stop simply because you want it to. Some days it’ll be a miracle if you get any writing in at all. Other days, you may be able to put in a full eight hours. Everyone’s schedule will be different, and most likely, it’ll be different everyday. As long as you keep writing, it doesn’t matter how many days you can’t write.
Our children grow up faster than we think. No one should look back and regret writing because they ignored their children. It’s a delicate balance that every writing parent needs to figure out on their own. Every writer is a different person with different children. There not one answer that will fit every family dynamic, but it is important that you find one.